Let’s Talk About Fair
Posted on 15 June 2010
“It’s Not Fair” is not an excuse
Back in Kindergarten we were taught that we should strive to be fair to others and that others should be fair to us. Our laws are structured to try to make things fair. We take things to court to try to balance things out when we have been treated unfairly. And people with a conscience give charitably of their time and dollars when they see something that seems unfair and which they might help improve by a donation. Being fair to customers, friends, employees, and people in general will win you their loyalty and besides, it’s the right thing to do. Fairness is a good goal. But fairness is never guaranteed and in spite of our well-meaning leaders in government, true fairness, a totally level playing field, will never happen!
The point I’m hoping to make today is that fairness is a good thought and an admirable goal when it comes to things you can control, but using a lack of fairness as an excuse for your own lack of success (that’s my polite way of saying ‘failure’) is a lame waste of time that won’t resolve anything. If you’re only focused on what is fair, you’ll see disparity everywhere. But if you focus instead, on what is possible, you’ll be able to accomplish far more.
Stop worrying about things being fair and start plowing ahead toward your goals in spite of the fact that you aren’t as ‘lucky’ as the guy who has already reached the goal you’re striving for.
A favorite quote:
Life’s not fair. Get a helmet. — Dennis Leary
[NOTE: This is another in my series of blog posts I need to pay attention to myself.]
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2 responses to Let’s Talk About Fair
Serenity prayer is a good tool.
I think that I would trade a little FAIRNESS for a little more of being HONEST(sorry but I didn’t know if there is a word - Honestness). I believe in being honest with people and the fairness will surely follow… most of the time.